I’m wondering if this blog should have been named family sucks, addiction sucks, people who can’t get their shit together suck. Really, now that one problem is seemingly under control the ‘other’ problem has come to life. The other ‘problem’ is, of course, my husband’s family. 

His sister recently left her husband who was no great shakes to begin with for another man. Great. And I mean that. Great because it can only get better, I think to myself. Except that she gets pregnant immediately, she discovers that he is violent and abusive when he drinks, and she still can’t manage to get a job even though we live in a place where jobs of any kind are for the asking. 

The reason she doesn’t get a job is because her mother enables her life style by giving her money whenever she asks for it. This is often as you can imagine. The mother can’t stand giving her money but doesn’t know how to say ‘no’. I get that because I have a brother just like the sister-in-law and eventually I just had to stop talking to him because it was getting too crazy.

Now, understandably, the mother-in-law is freaking out because the daughter is pregnant and has outwardly said that she will live with mom and mom will raise the baby. Now M.I.L has disappeared saying she has a friend over but what we suspect is that the chronic asking by the daughter has pushed her over the edge and she is most likely using again.

Really. Who needs soap operas? Writers could come directly to me for material. 

I’m wondering what you do in a situation like this? I have no problem saying ‘no’ to my brother now, though truthfully it did take me awhile but how do you say no to your pregnant daughter and worse, now that a child is potentially involved, how do you say no? It feels like a spider’s web. Anyways, this is my update for now.

My sister is going into rehab on Wednesday…it was delayed due to flue outbreak. The world is an insane place and things like animals, jobs and lovely husband are the markers for sanity. The insanity squeezes itself in-between all the other spaces.

I would love to hear from other people who have ‘leaners’ in their life and how they deal with it. Tools please.